Tea and Transformation
A NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR
Welcome, My beautiful Friend
I get it! We, humans, have a deep longing to connect to that one person. To be loved for who we are and who we are going to be. We want, need to be loved for who we are, faults and all. I know I did.
I searched, dated, lived with, married, and had two children but at the end of the day I always felt let down.
That there were always issues that ultimately did not work and the relationships always ended. They often ended badly with broken hearts and deep wounds.
In my 35 years as a psychic and metaphysical educator, 98% of my clients want to know if they will find that deeply connected relationship that brings simple joy to them every day. We all dream of it, want it and desire it.
In this worksheet, you will find 32 ways to recognize that you have found unconditional love.
Remember the transformation part is easy: it is the showing up to do the work that is difficult. So promise yourself you will work through this worksheet and open up to the possibilities.
3 2 W a y s t o k n o w i f y o u a r e i n a n U n c o n d i t i o n a l L o v e R e l a t i o n s h i p
– When you get vulnerable, your partner responds with empathy and
encouragement and tries to allay your fears.
– You can tell each other the truth — even when it’s uncomfortable.
– When you wrong each other, you actively pursue restitution and the rebuilding
– You can forgive each other freely.
– You don’t pick fights about petty things or hold grudges. Even when arguing,
– you respect each other and aim for a healthy resolution.
– You don’t feel like you have to prove yourself (or your love) to your partner.
– Your partner genuinely puts your needs first without the expectation of getting
anything in return.
– Your partner’s selflessness inspires your own — and vice versa.
You can let down your guard and be completely yourself in front of your
– Your partner can let down their guard in front of you (They might not cry or
admit embarrassment in front of anyone else).
– Your partner encourages and inspires you to be the best version of yourself.
– You both see each other’s full potential — and are each other’s greatest
– You celebrate each other’s successes and get through hard times as a team.
– You feel deep empathy for your partner.
– Even on bad days, you trust that your partner loves and accepts you for who
– You sense that your partner wants you to pursue the things you’re passionate
– You can take risks and know they’re in your corner.
– You feel safe. You feel “at home” when you’re with your partner.
encourage you to do so.
– You are both fully yourselves when you’re together.
– You bring out the best in each other.
– You are not codependent. Neither depends on the other for their sense of self-esteem nor do you enable unhealthy habits or thought patterns.
– You respect each other — especially when you disagree or let each other down.
– You both value communication and consider the relationship’s health a priority.
– When you make compromises in the relationship, you’re still respecting your
own values and boundaries.
– Neither of you plays games. You don’t withhold love or affection to get what
– You want to demonstrate your love for your partner with both words and
actions throughout the day (Even on a bad day, you might still buy them a
coffee or text them a word of encouragement before their big meeting).
– You extend patience and compassion to your partner when they’re going
through a rough time — and know not to take their temporary bad mood
– You find satisfaction in the act of loving them, no strings attached.
– You don’t try to shield your partner from pain. Instead, you support them and
share in it with them.
– You’re proud of each other. When you’re not together, you only speak kindly of
– You know you’re both in it for the long haul. You want to grow old with your
partner, and are ready to do life together — no matter what the future holds.
U N C O N D I T I O N A L L O V E S E L F R E F L E C T I O N
Unconditional Love is within your grasp, but that doesn’t mean it will be easy to achieve. Unconditional love is pure, steadfast, and accepting. If you’re willing to grow as a person you can achieve the unconditional relationship you want. In the next few pages, you have an opportunity to define what unconditional love means to you. You will also have an opportunity to take a look at what might stand in your way of achieving unconditional love. Again, you have to come back to what will you do to grow into a person who can love unconditionally and be ready and open to receiving unconditional love. Think about the questions for a little bit before you answer them.
When you have finished the questions put them away for a week and then take them out and see if what you have written still resonated with you. Do you want to change anything? You may end up reviewing and changing your answers and thought about unconditional love.
Approach this exercise with curiosity and see what you discover about yourself and how you view love and your relationships.